This may be a little long, but some background is necessary.

My (57M) wife (50F) and I have been married for 26 yrs and in and out of the LS for about 17 years. Neither of us looks, or (frankly) acts, our ages. Wife is a gorgeous, slim tall brunette. I'm 6'3", average build, but pretty young looking face. Most of our experiences have been FF, FFM, or FMF. She's bi and loves women. She also likes big dick! I have a massive Hotwife/Voyeur kink and love nothing more than watching her fuck, especially other men. Since we've been together, all of her experiences with other men have been in MFMF situations. She has very much enjoyed all of our experiences. Not only has she told me, but I've been there to SEE that she enjoyed herself - very much. Well, fast forward, and we took ourselves off the market to have kids and moved to a different part of the country (1200 miles). About 2 years ago, we decided to get back out there and start playing again. Together, we developed profiles on alt LS apps and started in. We've had no luck meeting couples or single females where we now live. So far, either we aren't attracted or the people we've connected with have flaked. Single men, on the other hand, are readily available, and some of them seem pretty ok.

Here's my dilemma: When I send my wife single male prospects, she reacts in an EXTREMELY reserved way. We talked about it, and after a lot of prying, I got some insight. She says that every time I send her anything about a single male, she immediately "feels nauseous" and has to "forcefully remind" herself that she has my permission and that I actually encourage and WANT her to indulge in this activity. Once she reminds herself that she "has permission," she then feels "guilty for feeling any amount of enjoyment." She says, "it's different if it's a couple, and he's married or attached."

Are there any Hotwives who have experienced similar feelings? If so, what (if anything) did you do to get rid of the feelings of guilt? I constantly reassure her, and we're not new to the LS, but we are new to this dynamic. Is there anything I can do, or say, to help her leave ANY guilt in the dust???