Obviously using my throwaway. I had a situation happen and I'm not exactly sure where else to post it but here seems like it's the best place to do so.

I'm a black male with a white girlfriend who occasionally like to invite a play partner to pound her while I watch. We don't get to play a whole lot due to A) we're in a small southern town and there's not a lot of people who sign off on those kinda things B) She's chubby, which doesn't click with people's "ideal" hotwife and C) She's incredibly busy, so lining up a potential playmate for the evening is hard enough on it's own without some sort of random caveat to it or someone trying to morph our fantasy into theirs. It's frustrating at times, but when it works - it's a great time had by all.

For the past month, I had been talking to a individual through email who had expressed interest in enjoying a quick session (What she prefers) and the time had finally lined up for a bit of playtime - He would come into the house, she would be waiting, and I would sit back and watch. He said he had experience in the lifestyle and he seemed super respectful. He was 100 percent down for what we were setting up and he really liked her pictures and so I figured everything was a go until his next email -

"Hey, what race are you dude?"
I wasn't very sure on why it mattered, but whatever.

" I'm a black man. Does that change things?"

"Yeah, I'm out. I don't fuck nigger spoiled pussy."

Absolutely floored me. I looked at that email for a long time before I responded with "Thank you for your time" and deleted contact information. That was one hell of a gut punch and as I'm getting ready to lay down for the evening, I'm still not sure on how to react. I get having preferences and whatnots, but you're not fucking me, man. My clothes are staying on the entire time. You mean to tell me that *i'm* the reason you won't play? I'm not even good enough to *watch*? She's not good enough to *fuck*? Because I've had sex with my girlfriend, she's tainted? Fuck right off with that bullshit. It would have been easier to say "Hey man, not my thing. Thanks tho" and I would have been confused but could have handed it so much better than what was actually said and done.

I'm not sure what I'm looking to get out of this post, to be honest. It's just made me realize that not everyone who shares your kink is happy to share it with you, I guess. It's not all orgasms and fun times. There are some real characters around and some major disappointments that exist in the lifestyle.

Thanks for listening.