This is the male making the post, but she has access to the account so we can both communicate. The tl;dr at the bottom of course!

It's taken a long time to get to this point, and we are both confident it will happen. It's been a discussion of ours for a very long time. Long enough to gestate, long enough to bring it into the bedroom via role play, long enough for us to analyze our feelings about it outside of the bedroom, long enough for us to take a close look at ourselves and our relationship and how this lifestyle may affect it. We've even gained outside perspective of our relationship, and that lead to finding small opportunities of improvement for ourselves, thus leading to an even stronger bond.

We have had a lot of productive conversations, and we would like to gain a bit of "veteran" advice to further our journey. Ultimately, anyone that can give us extra bits of advice is more than welcome; not just from seasoned purveyors of the lifestyle.

A few of the stops along the way included: how and where to find partners, and how to remain safe and discreet. A bit of common sense provided good answers as far as safety; how and where we find prospective Bulls is still something to dig into more. On the surface, the community here is a good start for potential bulls; fetlife, AFF, SLS are some of the more common places I see come up in discussion. In addition, traditional sites like POF too.

Our biggest concern now is getting insight on the taboo of this lifestyle. Her concern is in relation to her rough sexual past, and how it relates to societal pressures for "normal" sex with your partner. We've been together for nearly 5 years, and in her eyes -or what society tells her anyway- is that what we want to do is wrong; having multiple partners is wrong. I'm paraphrasing what she said to me, by the way. So we want to gain some clarity about dealing with that taboo aspect, as well as open a good line of communication with a couple for advice along the way, if we may!

We look forward to hearing back!

Tl;dr younger couple seeking to get into lifestyle and is wanting to get advice/chat with established couples