Wife (38) and I (41) have been married for over 15 years and sharing fantasies about opening up our relationship for probably over 8 years now - particularly about Hotwife or full swinging scenes... Slow build-up, I know! I brought it up initially - saying her blow jobs are so good it's a shame I get them all to myself. That was the catalyst for us slowly opening up communication about fantasies, but not really taking anything seriously. Talk built over the years, progressing from just in the bedroom to more open even while not engaged in sexual activity. I think that's the point where you know it's more realistic than just fantasy fodder.

Wife travels for work (we both do), and I started by writing her permission slips - kitchen passes, as it were. I wrote she was permitted to engage in sexual activity if the mood ever struck her. She recently intimated she had several offers over the years (some implied, some direct) but she politely declined them all saying a one-night stand was not worth risking her lifetime with me. Only once was she was truly tempted to use the pass, but she eventually felt it just wasn't right.

Talk continued on and off over the years - throw in a couple kids and some health issues and things are bound to slow down - but the idea was always there. Occasionally I would ask her to go out and describe guys she found attractive or take sexy pictures (topless or whatever) in her room. Sometimes we'd include fantasy elements into bedroom antics, or into sexts while one of us was traveling.

Well, everything picked up early last year when, on a business trip, the wife texts me saying if we ever get to the action part of fantasies, she thinks she has a willing participant - we call him Alex. Apparently there was some kind of mutual attraction that was never communicated, but thankfully my wife is into football and beer so she finds it easy to talk to guys outside of work. It must also be said that my wife is usually pretty conservative and ultra-picky, so for her to actually have thought this out that far meant she was not kidding. I asked her what her concerns for pressing forward were and she replied it was mainly how it could or would affect our relationship. I reassured her that, above everything else, I loved and trusted her. I went further to say that if she went for it and she didn't like the result that it was something we agreed to - together - and it would never be held against her. Eventually, she decided to go for it, but Alex got sloppy drunk with an old college buddy the night she decided and he missed out on what could have been her (our) introduction to the Hotwife Lifestyle. Fortunately for me, though, her build-up and inability to get release led to some amazing sex for us when she got home! We tried several times to get them together over the ensuing months, even inviting him to a weekend getaway in Vegas, but he flaked again and again.

Fast forward to last summer and I'm away for an extended period of time, but she still had to travel for work as well. Add to that, one of her travel/work partners (from another office across the country - we'll call him Brad) has been hitting on her for ages. She appreciates the attention, but figured he's not got much of a chance. Enter my devious mind and a dare to go into a work meeting with him, in his hotel room, with no panties under her skirt. She took the dare which eventually ended up with Brad going down on her, but without her reciprocating. At one point she told him "no fucking this time, but next time perhaps." She felt crazy guilty immediately following, but we were able to talk our way through it until eventually she realized how 1) not upset I was and 2) how turned on we both were during and afterwards (she was texting me from his room, but not with the true details of what was going on - that came out later).

The flirting between her and Brad went on for several more months, including my wife playing footsie with him while out with other work partners on another trip a few months ago, but she still wasn't completely ready to take the big leap forward. He kept hinting that they had some unfinished business to attend to but, as always, she was in control and nothing would happen without her consent. Again, I reap the benefits of blistering hot sex on her return from this trip.

So, last week, before leaving for a conference in NV, wife wrote me a note saying "I'm guessing it will be a bland trip, but I'll tell you if that might change." I sent her an email while she was in the air which described a few dares she could try to complete, and a couple scenarios I imagined where she could end up in bed with Brad. Her group was out at dinner Wednesday evening, but Brad had to behave as his boss was with them (forgot to mention Brad is married as well, and knows that wife and I have been talking about this very scenario). After boss left, Brad was back to his normal flirty self and trying to get my wife back to his room eventually giving her his room number. I tell her she can just go with a blowjob as reciprocation for their prior encounter, but she says if she ever goes through with it she's pretty sure she wouldn't stop there. We continue to text into the night and she eventually says she walked up to his hotel floor, but got cold feet and turned around. Lots of texts back and forth and then I get the text "I may make your wish come true. He's coming here. Still not sure."

I reassured her that she needed to talk to him, only do something if she wants to, and that I loved her. I said I would leave her alone and didn't hear back from her until about an hour later. Wife: "Are you still up?" Me: "I was just about to ask if you were okay" Wife: "I'm fine... brushing my teeth... so... yeah."

So, yeah, she finally made the leap! According to her, it was good - not great. She was a bundle of nerves for most of the night, said it was good overall, but nothing earth shattering. She added "Immediate reaction, I probably wouldn't do it again anytime soon if ever." I asked whether she meant with Brad or at all. "Both" was her reply. Then she said "but I also thought I wouldn't do this ever." I asked how she really was doing she said she was surprised that she had the courage to go through with it and really felt fine emotionally, but to let her sleep on it and reengage in the morning. I could tell she was having some conflicted feelings so I did all I could to reassure her everything was good on my end, and I even praised her for deciding to make it happen. Said I was also disappointed she didn't have a great time, which is when she said "I prefer you, seriously." We eventually came to the consensus that solo play was probably out, but a MFM threesome was still a possibility.

I had a lot of questions and she answered every one but we both needed sleep as we both still had to work the next day.

Here's where you might think the story ends and we settle for using it as a platform for more fantasy talk, but not much else. That's where I figured this was going. She did it, it was okay for her (and us), we move on.

The next day, we continue to reassure each other we're okay. She was still surprised she did it and that she wasn't freaking out - I figured that was a good sign. Their group meeting the next morning had assigned seating and Brad was seated next to her, although he refused to look at her - which she found amusing. She asked if she was an official MILF and I had to agree that she's a mom, and guys obviously want to fuck her, but last night was more a step towards being a Hotwife. Since she was feeling a little sexier that morning she had sent a G-rated picture to Alex and he replied in kind, so she was happier with her decision, but still figured she was done for now. I told her that I understood how she felt after last night and therefore I doubted she'd want to, but if she wanted a repeat performance that it was okay. She said it all depended on the crowd and her mood.

I got it out of her that she was surprised and excited to give Brad a blowjob (her favorite foreplay activity). She was also "overwhelmed by excitement" as she was waiting to finally be penetrated by a new cock. She admitted that going over the events of the night was still turning her on. She also agreed that when we went to a local Food and Wine festival later this fall might be a good time to try and find a third for our first threesome!

That evening, she was getting ready and felling really good about herself. Her outfit drew the attention of several of the older women in her group who told her she was dressed too sexy to go out (in boots, jeans, cami, and a see-through top). I said I knew she had no plans for the night, but if things change it was still okay with me. I asked if she could pinpoint what it was that made her decide to make the previous night happen and her answer was "tired of wondering if I could or would."

Then she said she had a new admirer...

Another guy (we'll call him Chris) who had looked from afar but never stepped up to say something. As it was, she had noticed he was behind her on every escalator, and made it a point to sit next to her this evening. I prodded to see if she was considering anything. She said maybe passively, but nothing active. Too many coworkers around (including Brad) and they were just getting to know each other. I let her know I was fine with whatever she did or didn't do.

The group started to get smaller and eventually Brad left my wife and Chris at the bar where they were just "enjoying each other's company" according to wife. I continued to ask if she had reconsidered, but she assured me she was more interested in sleep and I got a message she was back in her room alone (and so tired). A couple texts later she said Chris had sent her a message with an offer to come to his room. She was shocked and couldn't believe he'd sent it. I asked if he'd sent it earlier whether she'd have gone...

Wife: "No, I just... can't. Really. Two people in two nights?!?" Me: "I'm really okay with it. If you aren't than you aren't." Wife: "Geez. I wasn't expecting this. Before tonight I never would have suspected" Me: "Pressures off so might be more enjoyable. Ha!" Wife: "funny, that's what I was thinking. You can't be mad tomorrow." Me: "If you haven't noticed, I'm the one encouraging you" Wife: "probably against my better judgement"

I sent a few more messages and got no reply, then about 20 minutes later I sent this message: "I'll take it from your lack of response that you're, ahem, busy... Hope you're having a great time babe!"

Another 10 minutes later she replied "very much so" then "so much better"

Another 20 minutes and I ask "Are you okay?" and again got "very much so"

I was a little worried that I wasn't getting quicker replies and said so. She replied "sorry... I was occupied. Soooooooooooooo much better. All the sordid details tomorrow"

I asked for as long as she was there, did she use an entire 3-pack of condoms? "Two" was her reply! She added "that was amazing and more of what I expected. He totally was catering to me, asking if it was a dream. Two times around at my request. WAY better. SOOOOOOO much better"

I told her I was glad she took another chance since it seems to have paid off. "OMG yes. 100% better. But I still prefer you" was her reply. She continued "as opposed to last night, I'm satisfied, happy, and definitely feeling sexy. It was perfection."

She came home the following day and we once again had incredible sex - and for the first time, reclamation sex! The rest of the weekend we couldn't keep our hands off one another and we talked all about both encounters and where we go from here. Short of something happening at that food and wine festival, Alex is our next goal. I couldn't be more surprised that we made it to this point and I am extremely lucky to have such an amazingly strong, confident, and sexy wife... My Hotwife!