As we all know, finding a third or a couple can be....difficult, at best.

The fakes, the pic collectors, the flakes. We've done this for years, and everyone tells the same stories of how tough it is to find real people, let alone good matches.

We've tried the various apps. They're pretty much all the same - you can't see anything at all unless you pay a silly high fee, and even then, it's more of the same. Fake profiles, fake nonsense everywhere.

So I've been thinking... there HAS to be a better way.

I'm an IT guy by trade, been making websites for twenty years. It shouldn't be so tough to put together a useful tool. So I've decided to do just that.

Understand - this is NOT an ad. I will not mention or link my site here. It's not done yet, anyway, but I would never dream of spamming a sub.

What I do want to do, however, is share the ideas I have and see if y'all have any suggestions.

First off - I'm wanting to be inclusive of gender and sexuality. I want you to be able to define your location (city, state) so that you show up in other people's searches. You can also search off of locations besides your home (i.e. maybe you are looking to hook up while traveling). You can filter off of kinks, interests, if they have proof of std status, etc if you so desire.

I want to give people the ability to verify their identity, using government issued ID. That would not be saved, but a human would review it and mark the account as verified. Verified members would show up as such, so you'd know that was a real person you're chatting with - not some flake who makes ten accounts a month.

I want to give people the option to rate others. If someone sends you a chat and just wants to fish for pics and whatever, you can mark them as such. If someone schedules a meet but doesn't show, isn't who they claim, etc - you can mark them as such. If someone shows but are a selfish ass, etc - review them.

I'm thinking, no contact info allowed on profiles or ads - this stops assholes from spamming you, and also stops the onlyfans crowd from spamming their crap. You open chats through the site; from there, share whatever you want. This also gives a way to block unwanted chats, report abuse, and control who gets your contact info.

Any thoughts so far? Suggestions on things that you think would make a site like this really work right?

Thanks for your input.