My husband and I were taken aback by Adam’s lack of respect for our situation. My husband had invited him over, and was told no, yet Adam contacts me and says that he wants to meet. Do you understand where we’re coming from by this point? Adam wanted to play with me alone, and instead of being upfront and honest, he tried to circumvent how we normally operate within the lifestyle. What he failed to realize was that if he had just asked us if it was cool for him to meet up with me alone, the answer most likely would have been “sure”. Instead, he went the sneaky route, and ended up tarnishing our feelings towards him.

My husband and I do not play those games, and always try to address conflict as a united front. I set up a group text thread between myself, Adam, and my husband. I then texted him asking why he would give one answer to my husband, but give me a totally different answer. He texted back apologizing, saying that he had forgotten about hubby texting him earlier.

Although this could have been an honest mistake, it isn’t likely.

At this point, I text him back letting him know that today actually won’t work for me, and that I’ll be in touch. When Adam then asked if maybe next weekend will work, my husband replied saying “I think were going to take a break from the lifestyle for a bit.” No hard feelings, no bottled up animosity…just a break to catch our breath and talk through the misstep.

We stopped communication with Adam for a couple of months. During this time, Adam would sporadically text us just saying hello, or hoping our day was going well. He wasn’t overbearing with his texts, and they were infrequent at best. I think he was just trying to ensure that he wasn’t forgotten once we decide to start playing again.

Finally, my husband and I decided that it couldn’t hurt giving Adam a second chance. We settled on the fact that he truly could have just made a mistake. I mean, other than that one fuck up, he was a great playmate. My husband and I text him one evening letting him know that we would like to give this whole thing another try if he was still interested, and of course he replied almost instantly saying “YES!” We then hooked up a few times that same week just to knock the dust off and get back into the groove of swinging. The sex was fantastic. Adam seemed to have a lot of built up sexual frustration that he unleashed on me and in me. Hubby and I started to think that this might actually work out.

And then he shits the bed again…