Hi I am D and I have been in a long term relationship with my boyfriend J since my freshman year of undergrad. Over the pass 1.5 years my boyfriend and I have been exploring more of our kinks and have recently decided to fully open up our bedroom.

I am sure this is a popular question but so far we have found finding a partner difficult. I do not want to use dating apps because I dont want any of my friends or family to see me on there. We have tried going out but I cannot bring a friend because I don’t want them to know we are open but I don’t like going out alone because it is awkward. I have gone out with my bf but so far a lot of guys just get weirded out if he is there or won’t approach. Also not to come off as bitchy but I haven’t been attracted to anybody from Reddit so far or atleast meeting hasn’t felt dangerous.

I have started flirting a lot more with strangers and wearing more revealing clothes but so far most guys back off when they learn I am in such a long term relationship. I don’t want to hide the fact I am in a relationship though because that is a big part both my bf and I enjoy.

I wanted to post because I am at work now but we plan on going out to the local breweries after work tonight. Not gonna get my hopes up but I guess you never know