Hello lovely community. We're 34m 36f couple who have decided to give this a try.

As a first time couple, lots of nerves over here. This was my (34m) idea as something I've enjoyed thinking about, and we've been talking for a few years about it. A few weeks ago we were on a trip to Miami, and I brought it up again as something I'd find really interesting and exciting.

We talked a lot about it and finally decided that yes, this is something we would explore together, at least once, to see if it's for us. So we posted in our local hotwife reddit and screened a few responses until we found someone who might be compatible.

Decided to go with the guy who didn't send a dick pic up front and instead had a conversation with us. Strangely he was the most mature of the group at 23, and brings a few years of experience himself (hey if you're reading this!)

This is definitely something that is being driven by me (34m). She is intrigued with the idea, but isn't something that she would have done on her own. Hookups haven't really been her thing ever, as for her the physical attraction comes after the emotional attraction.

Of course, we're worried about the typical things: are we going to be the same afterwards?

We've been through a lot of trauma unrelated to our core relationship, but we feel like we're in a really good place both physically and emotionally. We're not doing this to fix something in our relationship; in fact, our sex life is really great, if a bit vanilla, and we have pretty mind blowing sex just between the two of us. We've also worked really hard on our communication and things get even better year after year, which we feel lucky about, but also more committed to each other than ever before.

So, enter a hotwife situation, and wow are there feelings on both sides. Mostly nerves and wondering what life will be like afterwards. What is the new normal?

So for you experienced couples out there willing to share with us, what lies in the road ahead? How do you navigate this as a couple after you try it out? What are some things that we should expect on our date, and what are the things we need to be prepared for?

We've arranged to meet at a local tapas bar tomorrow evening, and there's a hotel across the street. We're thinking we'll get some cocktails to loosen up, get to know each other, then head to the hotel if we're feeling like we're all jiving.

Any advice or wisdom you're willing to impart would be much appreciated.