I've noticed that a significant portion of what makes hotwife hot for me is that it is happening with MY wife, there is a transgressive mixture of aggressive sexual energy and adoration for her that I feel when multiple horny men want her. Its an exceedingly pleasant experience.

Its hot, exciting and encouraging to see other women who enjoy the kink in these forums and in porn, but it doesn't scratch the itch nearly as much as it does when my wife is the subject.

Do other husbands/boyfriends who enjoy hotwife kink also find that it is particularly hot because it is YOUR woman who is desired/getting fucked? Would these scenarios with a woman who isn't your partner be as big of a turn on?

I've never been the third, but imagine it would be pretty hot to be involved with a couple that are both super turned on. Have any of you been on both sides of the hotwife scenario?