Hey everyone. A few weeks ago I confronted my wife about her past relationship. It had been clear she was burying something that I knew happened. I was crushed when I heard that it was bc she was in a verbally abusive relationship and she had felt so much guilt even to this day bc she loved the sex despite the toxic relationship

We’ve had prob 8-10 conversations since and it’s been amazing to see her transform and open up communication wise and sexually since.

She told me she was always so scared and ashamed to admit this to me for how I might judge her. Now she feels she has a safe place to explore some of those elements with me.

However we have discussed how our healthy relationship does limit some things she really enjoyed. She misses the rough , physical sex she had before but doesn’t want that from me.

I brought up that she could explore that with others and she jokingly blew it off but last night said she’s not sure she could ever actually do that but the idea does turn her on. We had the most amazing sex that night after she admitted that

I’m not sure it’ll happen but knowing she’s turned on by the idea makes me so excited. Even more so I’m just more in love with her for opening up and being vulnerable and honest with me