I have been in an open marriage for 10 months now, and my wife also does the hotwife dynamic where I watch sometimes.

"Unfortunately," my wife has broken the silence of what we do to a few close friends of ours. They dont know I know they know, but I know some of their reactions to what my wife and I do after finding out.

The wives think what we do is great, but their husbands reacted differently. The husbands are all "WHAT!? Why is she letting her sleep with other guys!?" and "What wrong with him letting his wife be with other guys? I could NEVR do tat?"

For the record, I am NOWHERE near a beta guy. This is a secret, in the bedroom life we live like most others who do it. I am very alpha in my normal life, but feel I may be viewed differently now by my man friends. :(

I wish my wife never told their wives. I found out by seeing text conversations on my wifes phone while migrating to a new wireless service recently.