I guess I’ll preface this by saying my wife and I have been looking to add a third for a long time and seem to be having a lot of difficulty finding a good match. Many fakes and flakes and pic collectors, But had a different kind of issue arise recently and was wondering if anybody had any advice or insight?

We started talking to someone we thought was a good match. Everything seem to lineup in terms of what we were looking for in attraction. As we chatted more he asked about directly chatting with her more. Typically I (the husband) Do most of the chatting especially in terms of vetting and logistics. We do, however, often get on together for the more steamy stuff. She doesn’t like to necessarily chat alone though, that’s just not how we’ve ever played. Her interest is to do this with me. Apparently this was not what this potential third was looking for. I guess it was enough of a red flag that he no longer wants to meet up? Just wondering if other hotwives out there typically engage in private chats with a potential bull, should it be a dealbreaker, not sure how I feel overall?