So there’s clearly a huge lack of posts that help single guys navigate the hotwife lifestyle. Personally I feel like I have a treasure trove of advice and tips, as I’m sure most other wives do as well. Here’s the thing though, if we tell you what to do, that’s what you’ll serve up. I don’t want a fake person who says and does fake shit just to get my attention or get me in bed. I’d love to share what I think you all should say and do, what to wear, how to text, the list goes on but then all I’ll be doing is helping you doupe some poor unsuspecting hotwife into thinking ‘you get it’ when really, you don’t ‘get it’. If you’re the kind of man who sends a dick pic with your dirty ass bathroom in the background, I want to know that’s the real you. I mean, I’ll pass, but I appreciate knowing up front that it’s your style to do such a thing. I wish I could help you ‘good guys’ woo some lucky ladies and have all the hotwife fun but if we tell you exactly what to do, you’re no longer being your authentic self and ultimately that’s what I want to see.

Now I do share a lot of advice on my blog, for thirds as well, but I know that I often delete and backspace the things I want to post out of worry that someone will use it as a playbook to get laid and that just lets all the shitty dudes know how to pretend to be a decent partner.

All that said, there are some general rules to the whole hotwife thing as a third.

Respect the wife, respect the husband, and also respect the marriage. You can be cool with both parties but if you’re being a sneaky shit and not respecting the marriage as well then you kinda suck.

Share! Share photos when asked, share information when asked, share your wants and desires and act like your own individual human. I’m not one of those people that thinks of Thirds as sex toys so I would prefer to get to know a real person, not someone who think that their age and dick size alone will get me in bed. Also I swear sometimes getting a face photo is harder than pulling teeth. Why? Does anyone think a woman will fuck them without ever seeing their face? Like, really?!?

No matter how great (you think) your dick is, do not lead with a dick pic. That’s just life advice so apply that everywhere. You’re welcome for that one. A little mystery is a good thing, make us want to see it. Don't just whip it out all the time.

Get tested. Don’t care what the results are but you should be getting tested if you’re trying to fuck around with couples (or anyone). People out there have everything from hpv to hiv so no matter your results, get them and share them. Of course once you know your status you should communicate that to any potential partners/

Charm us. Shouldn’t have to be said, I think it’s obvious but apparently it’s not. Everyone likes to be wanted, desired, charmed. We all do. Wives are no exception. This hotwife thing is not a transaction or business deal. We’re not escorts, cattle or mindless fuck dolls, we’re human people that expect and appreciate having our pants literally charmed off. Of course this will vary from couple to couple but overall lead with being a kind, charming, interested person and you’ll get far. You can always dial it back if the couple says they just want a piece of meat to show up and fuck but you can’t dial it up once you set the bar super low.

I’m sure there’s more. I’ll come back and add some if I think of them but just wanted to share something I was currently thinking about.