We are new to the hotwife scene. Had one great experience about a year ago and we’re looking for more. Unfortunately, we haven’t had much luck. However, we met a great guy for lunch last week. He checked most all the boxes. My wife really liked him and we had a great conversation and seemed to hit it off quite well. Not a super sexual conversation, but just a solid get to know you session. My wife likes to get to know her playmates and we make it clear she’s not particularly DTF on the first meeting. I knew she liked him and I pretty sure he knew it. He invited us back to his room after lunch for some fun. Unfortunately, he only had about an hour before he had to catch his flight. We might have taken him up on it, but she didn’t want to feel rushed. She left him with a nice kiss and told him she wanted to meet again. On the drive home she messaged him letting him know there would be much more fun on the second date. They exchanged a some sexy banter and sent him a few sexy photos of her. I like to pass communication off to her and let her take the lead.

At this point I’m very excited. Finally, we found a great guy! She’s seems genuinely excited to go the next step with him. She likes to communicate and she’s sent a few messages to him - a nice “how are you?” and a little flirting. Just enough to keep things going. So far, not much in return. I’m hoping she doesn’t get discouraged.

Questions:

Am I out of line to ask him separately to step up the flirting?

Do husbands often give potential playmates hints on how to seduce their wives?

Do I just let things happen organically?