Completely new to this sub (and reddit in general) and super intrigued, but not completely sure I understand everything — a few questions: Does the relationship have to be MFM to be considered hotwifing? Background: my husband of 20 years is asexual (not interested at all) and recently due to a reorg of our partnership we’ve agreed to open the intimacy side of relationship for me since I love sex and have been making do with vibrators (thank god for them) for years. So would this be considered hotwifing? Maybe this is a self-hotwifing? Does that still fit in this category? Or are bulls (look at me learning new terminology so quickly) looking for the HW to have a husband who is on some level interested —meaning is it hot to a bull if there’s not truly a husband getting off on it? From other internet sources it seems this situation still fits this category but from scrolling through this sub I wasn’t so sure. I felt reddit would be most suitable and discreet place to post looking for someone(s) since I wouldn’t want to post advertising all this in dating apps or even swinger sites (don’t qualify), so starting to explore different subs and learning more. Gah! So much to learn when I have been out of commission since college. Appreciate any advice -thanks!