Having been interested and paying attention for a while now, it seems that most (but admittedly not all) couples are essentially seeking a fantasy. Which is fine, or course; everyone loves a bit of fantasy fulfillment. But in reality only a very small percentage of men are young, hung, ripped, etc. So as someone who's interested in finding a place in this lifestyle but who isn't in that small percentage, I'm respectfully wondering if there's a realistic chance or whether I'd be wasting my time.

If the specifics matter I'm 53 and carrying more than a few extra pounds (but less than "holy shit"). I realize that's something I can do something about, and I am. But even then it's extremely unlikely that I'll ever be ripped. And there's nothing (short of surgery - which not for me) that I can do about the fact that I'm decent looking but not a model, average height rather than tall, balding rather than a full head of flowing locks, and average size rather than hung like a horse.

Please let me clarify that I realize women in general aren't all expecting a man off the cover of a romance novel. I know this beyond any doubt because I've had my share of relationships and sexual partners in my life. But this lifestyle isn't composed of women in general...