First off, I posted this to another community similar to this one in the hopes that I might get some different points of view... so if you see this another sub-reddit, don't want anyone to think this is just SPAM.

As a quick background, I'm a 28-year-old bachelor who is dating around and looking for something serious. I was speaking with an acquaintance from a hookup app who, for some reason, I was quite candid with about my proclivity towards hotwifing / stag-play, and she asked me something that I haven't gotten out of my head, which is "have you brought this up in past relationships?"

It really got me thinking, and made me realize that I've only brought up my interest in sharing my S/O with other guys in one of my relationships - Long Story Short, she was not very interested, and the relationship eventually ended (had nothing to do with the topic at hand).

Anyway, I know that I want to share my future S/O with other guys, but I don't really feel comfortable bringing that up on a first date.... So how long do you wait, a month? 3 months? 6 months? What if that person is never interested in MFM, or being shared, or a hotwife situation or anything? If I know that I want this sort of thing to be a part of my relationship, I hypothetically won't want to waste time with someone who's never going to be into it.

Obviously there is no right and wrong way to go about this, and I'm not looking for an instruction manual, but I guess I'm just throwing this thought-process into the HotWife Lifestyle community pool and seeing if anyone has any thoughts / experience, etc.? Thanks for reading, I hope everyone has a very Happy New Year!