Hey All..

Not sure if this falls under y'all's "umbrella" but it seemed a little more hotwife than swinger.

My wife heads out with lady friends every month or so. It's totally tame stuff, they literally just go to dinner and chat & catch up. I was wondering/mildly fantasizing about a guy kind of hitting on her a bit in front of her friends, maybe trying to buy her a drink. Just enough that she feels like she's being noticed, and probably enough for her friends to give her a little hard time about it.

The hopeful offshoot of this is that she not only starts seeing herself as a little more sexy that night, but all the time as well. It's about her being turned on & feeling sexy, not so much any humiliation stuff.

Q - Is there a place for this sort of thing in the HotWife world? It's more flirting than anything else, and the "other guy" would kind of be warming her up a little for her return home. I kind of realize, like "What's in it for the other guy?" And I don't have an answer, maybe I could pay for his drinks?

We've dabbled a bit in the swinging world, and she likes to feel that things are happening organically, instead of actively searching for people. It's a work in progress. ;)

TL;DR - Is there such a thing as "soft hotwife" where she just flirts or gets hit on?

PS. If this is the wrong sub for this, or if you think it does actually belong in /r/Swingers, let me know!