If you have any tips or advice in regards to safety & hotwifing I'd love for you to share them here. I figured it would be beneficial to have a bit of a compilation of the safety precautions that work for other couples and single guys so that we can help each out in making sure everyone involved is safe and having a good time.

Keep in mind new men and couples embrace this fantasy all the time so no tip is too obvious or basic. Everyone plays differently so please be respectful of that if you're offering input here.

A few to start:

• Verify everyone you plan on meeting: I usually ask for a live camera pic of them doing something specific, like holding up a certain number of fingers or you can go with the classic shoe on head selfie to verify...as long as you know it's them it doesn't matter. Some people want verification before they'll chat and others don't ask until a date is being planned, up to you.

• Image Search: Use tiny-eye or google reverse image search for any images that seem suspicious to you.

• Use your own phone/camera for photos if you worry about someone else having them.

• Use an app like Kik for chatting. It doesn't require your phone number or real name.

• Get tested...sexual health and safety is pretty important so..get tested :)

• If you use Tinder, make a new separate facebook account for your tinde profile.

• Let someone know where you are when you go meet someone. That's just basic sense but not everyone has that so..yeah...make sure someone knows where you are and when to expect you back.

• Follow your instincts but balance that with a healthy dash of realism. There's a lot of heightened emotions when you're in the thick of this so we find that it works for us to 'go with your gut' on a lot of things but we also make sure to cover all of bases as far as staying safe from a practical standpoint. It requires plenty of unsexy planning and conversations but I'm ok with that if it means I'm going and out and returning home to my family happy and safe.

...and if you have the time I have some questions :)

Husbands: What are your safety concerns and how can your wife and/or her lover ease them?

Gentlemen: What are your safety concerns and what actions can we as a couple take to ease them? Wives: What are your primary safety concerns and what can your husband and/or lover do to address them?

What level of transparency to you expect from the guy/couple you're meeting? We don't require as much discretion as I know a lot of other couples so I'm curious how you all balance the desire to know about the person you're meeting and maintaining the level of privacy that prevents you from sending a face pic (or something similar).