So I was invited to join a couple, they initially each played solo but recently they've changed the rules a bit so that she can always be present when he plays. She likes to either watch or join depending on my comfort level and all that. So for you guy who have played with wives and the husband is present...what’s that like? It’s not a cuckold thing, she’s truly 100% ok with not joining in and just likes to watch the fun as a voyeur. They seem like a great couple but since would be a first for me I’m curious about what to expect the dynamic to be like. Help!

What’s it like to have someone sitting back and watching?

What do they usually do the entire time?

Do you feel like you're performing?

Is it distracting to have the spouse there?

If it’s at a hotel they can’t really go occupy themselves while we continue or finish up. Is that gonna be strange?

Can I ask her to take pics or does that take away from her enjoyment of it?

I'll take all the advice, opinions and experiences that you're comfortable sharing. Thanks!

Obligatory clarification: There’s no cuckqueen aspects to it other than she won't participate. no cuckolding verbiage or anything of the sort...direct or implied.