What's your ideal situation when you're meeting a hotwife/couple? I know that usually the couple dictates a lot of the date and rules and how the night is going to unfold but if you could call all the shots what would you want assuming they're ok with all of your preferences?

I know that the hotwife kink is something a lot of you guys truly appreciate, respect and get off on but it seems that your preferences aren't often stated you should just be glad to be invited in...that seems strange to me so I'd like to know as a hotwife and couple what it is that you want out of the experience? What gets you off about being with a hotwife? What do you want to do with another mans wife that you don't get the chance to or are denied.