Writing to share our experience to give others who want to start in the lifestyle or want to get over that hump converting fantasy to reality a perspective how this can be a difficult but rewarding experience for couples.

The search:
I'm not going to dwell too much on our background or how we started (feel free to check my old post) but to add context to our search, we used Reddit to find our third. 1st reddit search was a wash, all our prospects flaked at the end. Our 2nd reddit search was promising but the guy respectfully backed out after the initial meetup. Wife got disappointed and said she doesn't want to do this anymore. After a couple of weeks, we looked at the candidates from the 2nd search again and decided to give a couple of them another chance.

The 3rd:
She ended up talking to this guy in his 40s. Physically, he's not her initial type (she likes tall, blonde, buff). But this guy's a gentleman, respectful and very patient. He's also fit (more muscular than me), an executive, and experienced in this lifestyle. If my wife is not looking for young studs, she's definitely attracted to power and success.

Initial meet:
So the guy set up an initial meet for a vibe check (this was back in November). We went to a Starbucks to meet him. He offered to get us coffee while we went to a table. Wife was still nervous at the start but warmed up to him and the conversation. After a few minutes, I went to a nearby store to pick up some groceries and to give them some alone time. This was actually planned. Wife knew to message me if I want to come back early if she didn't like the vibe.

After 30 minutes, I received a message from her. She asked if they can go to his car to have more privacy. Oh wow. Of course I said yes. I went back so I can park near them and as I was walking to my car, I saw them walking like lovers. I only felt excitement instead of jealousy seeing them like that. I'm the only guy my wife has been with so seeing her with her arms around his while walking was hot.

It was a bit dark and I parked 2 rows behind him so I couldn't see much except for the silhouette of their heads whenever they would go for a kiss. They couldn't do much as they were careful of people that might pass by and see them. Wife said she let him trace the g-string she was wearing and had him slide his hands inside her leggings to fondle her butt. She also told me that she rubbed his cock his pants while they were kissing. Too bad it didn't go hard so she wasn't able to ascertain its size. :P

Unfortunately, we had to leave to go back to our kids. The guy knew of our time limit and was respectful of that. I went to pick her up in his car and before they parted I saw them exchange a brief but passionate kiss. It was hot and a very memorable image for me. That night during the ride home and in our bed all we talked about was the experience and how she very much liked kissing him. We were so horny that night and fucked like hell.

The setback:
The guy wanted to build on the momentum and asked if we can meet 2 days after at a hotel. My wife thought it was too soon and she hasn't really wrapped her head around the idea of actually fucking somebody else. So the guy said to meet the following week instead and wife agreed.

Throughout the week for some reason, my wife wasn't feeling it. They still chat on Telegram but the excitement was waning for her. Our efforts to make her horny and special weren't working. She would ask for a recent test result to prolong the meet. The guy said he always use a condom and she doesn't have to suck him. No bueno.

So in the end, wife said no to the guy and that hopefully they can still be friends and chat from time to time. She told me she gave it a try and she can only go as far as making out. She said she'll just focus on me in our bedroom. I said cool, at least I got to see her make out with somebody else. I didn't push her nor said anything that might make her think twice about her decision.

Having a read so much from this sub, I know to let the wives work on it in their own timing. Just be ready to support her when she feels like it.

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Sorry to end it here. It's getting too long but I'll finish it in the next one.