I'm looking for ideas for how I can share my fantasy with my husband without being too direct. I've been interested in having a threesome with my husband and another man for years, but he's always been a little hesitant about the idea. We've watched porn together and have dirty talked about it before, but he's said he's not sure yet about fully committing to it.

Has anyone here successfully eased their partner into the idea of having a threesome or swinging? Obviously not forcing an idea onto them, but rather getting them more comfortable with the idea.

I've heard ideas like sharing a dream you had where you were being shared with another man, or watching movies together that involve non-monogamy. Would love to hear what some of you all have tried before.