Dear community,

Lately, I’ve seen many posts from semi-desperate men who don’t know what to do with their hotwife kink, having given up hope because their partner doesn’t want to engage in it. I strongly believe that the approach many of us men take is far too drastic, which ends up scaring women away.

The desire to see or hear about your partner had sexual encounters with another man is, for us, the ultimate expression of pride. Just as a woman might proudly wear her new diamond ring every day and enjoy the compliments, our wives are our pride and joy—something we are immensely proud of.

Where does it go wrong?

1. Misunderstanding your intent: Your partner might think your kink is just an excuse for you to have sex with other women. In my opinion, this is the most common misunderstanding. Address this upfront as soon as you have the courage to confess your kink. Make it crystal clear that it’s about her pleasure, and that this is what brings you fulfillment.
2. Expectations: Don’t expect that simply sharing your kink will result in your partner immediately: understanding it, respecting it, being open about it, or acting on it. We men need to understand that our partners have spent their lives fully committing to being loyal and monogamous with us. At first, it may be almost impossible for her to comprehend why you would want to “share” her. She might even feel undesired by you, though we men know the opposite is true!

So how should you approach it?

I came across the book "The Faithful Hotwife" which I shared with my wife. This book introduces your partner step-by-step to the idea of this lifestyle, without jumping straight into physical encounters with other men. It playfully introduces the foundational principles of the lifestyle and helps her ease into the concept.

If anyone is interested in this book, let me know. Please give this approach a try—plant the seed, and let time do the rest.

You’ve got this! Take it easy!