I harbor intense fantasies around hotwifing, but to this point, they’re unfulfilled. I have a caring wife who has warmed to the idea over the years, but has not indicated she will jump into it anytime soon.

Also: I’ve spent my entire adult life without a real sense of purpose. I’ve had a lot of (what most would call) career success. I’ve advanced, found myself in senior leadership roles, and make very good money, but I’ve never loved what I do or felt a deep sense of connection to it. From a career standpoint, I’ve fantasized about doing work I love and have a passion for.

I often wonder if folks who wake up each morning excited about the work they get to do, or who feel like they’re making meaningful progress toward goals they deeply care about, spend less time obsessing over sexual fantasies.

Please don’t hear me saying sexual fantasies are bad. I love them! I just wonder if mine are partly a symptom of my unfulfilling professional life OR if they are driven by a larger sense of “impotence” (meaning a lack of power and an inability to bring about the life results I want)?

Do you find yourself in a career you love, doing work you find meaningful?