Me [M33] and my Fiancé [F29] have been together for 2 and a half years. Our sex life is good, she’s always been super vanilla and I’ve always had hotwife fantasies which we play out in the bedroom. She’s always said she has no interest in playing it out in real life, we discuss this pretty regularly and the last time she said she wouldn’t be interested was last week.

Fast forward to this weekend, my buddy added her on social media, and I jokingly said to her “it’s because he wants to fuck you”, she got a little embarrassed but also excited, and she started to ask me more questions. It progressed really quickly to “I wonder how big his dick is?”, I said “ask him”, she did and they spent the evening exchanging photos, which continued all weekend. She said it was so fun and she was so horny, and felt so taboo.

We’ve sat down to talk about it, and she’s down for fucking him, either solo or as a threesome, we said if the first time was successful we could do it regularly with this guy. We’ve discussed boundaries and we both agree with all of them, that it’ll be 100% sexual, and no social chatting, catching feelings either end would be a disaster.

How can we can navigate this to ensure we all have a good time with minimal issues?

I don’t want our whole sex life to be about this, as that’s not what either of us want, so how can we keep it under control and keep desire within our relationship?

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