Would love any thoughts about the following scenario I have put together for our first Hotwife experience. We both just turned 40 and have talked about this fantasy on and off since we started dating. She says she’d be open to trying it when we find “the right guy in the right circumstances.” I think these are some pretty amazing circumstances and I think I found the perfect guy. DM me if you’d like to see pics of him. Part of this whole deal was that I would get to pick the guy and I think I found someone that she’ll definitely be excited about enjoying physically.

I have permission to use faceless pics on dating apps to find guys and we’re going skiing next month so a little while back, I found this tall, athletic, and really chill and respectful local in the ski town we’re heading to. I’m average height with short dark hair. He’s tall, long blonde hair, and here’s the kicker: he’s actually a couple years older than us…which I never thought would be appealing but the dude is incredible shape so I think him being a little older and a part of the ski community makes him easier to trust.

My vision is for us all to go skiing together, enjoy some Apres ski drinks/snacks, a hot tub then make some magic happen. As of now, the guy thinks we’re going to trick my wife into thinking the guy and I know each other through common friends in the ski community but I don’t want to deceive my wife so I’m going to tell her everything, show her my text convo with him, pics of him, etc. so she’s now in the driver seat. If we meet up with the guy and she’s not feeling it, we just don’t meet up with him again. If she does like him, she can make a move whenever she wants b/c she knows why he’s there while he doesn’t know she knows.

Here’s the thing: I subtly brought up the fantasy in passing the other day and didn’t get the vibe that my wife is down to try this any time soon. I have been looking forward to this for months. I won’t be devastated if this doesn’t happen but do you think I could at least get her to meet up with him and maybe they go on a dinner date while I watch from the bar? The guy seems totally cool with just being involved to the extent that we want him to be so I’m hoping we could make a new friend and then when we come back later in the season for a second trip, maybe then it happens.

Maybe any hotwives reading this could offer some insight into what things I could do with this guy that would warm the wife up to going all the way. One idea I had was a four handed massage.

Appreciate any feedback. Thanks.