Hi everyone, I want to share something personal and get some advice from this community.

Years ago, I went through a breakup after my ex cheated on me. At first, I was furious, but as strange as it sounds, over time, the idea of her being with another man started excite me. While the relationship ended long ago, that particular kink stayed with me.

Fast forward to now, I'm engaged to a wonderful woman. We have a great relationship, including a solid (though quite vanilla) sex life.

Recently, we've been talking about ways to add some spice to our intimacy, as we both feel it could use a spark. In two weeks, we're heading on an all-inclusive trip to a sunny destination. After some deep conversations, my fiancée revealed that she's open to exploring the idea of sleeping with another man while we're there. I'll be honest - the thought of it turns me on immensely, and I'm excited about the potential of this new chapter in our intimacy. To ease into this, we've agreed to start small. For example, I suggested a couple of things, like me cleaning up after oral or going down on her post-intercourse, and she's open to these as a way to explore my fantasies and push some boundaries. On the trip, our plan is to find a man for her, but we're not sure how to go about it. I worry that most people at these resorts might be in couples or not interested. My fiancée is also a bit shy, so the idea of approaching someone is intimidating fo of us.

I'd love advice on a few things: 1. What kind of men should we look for in this situation? Are there signs that someone might be open to this without directly saying so? 2. How should we approach someone? What's the best way to keep things casual and respectful while figuring out if they're interested? 3. How do we ensure this experience is positive for her (and for me)?

In want her to feel comfortable and empowered while we explore this together.

I'd appreciate any tips, personal experiences, or guidance. This is uncharted territory for us, but we're excited to navigate it together. Thanks in advar for your input!