You sum it up well there. It does make me feel like her pimp when i do the searching and present them to her to choose. We’ve been in it for nearly 3 years and have only had 3 dates. All went incredibly well. We’re busy people though. She also gets a bit stressed about the dates. Wants to look perfect and have everything go perfect. She doesn’t just look at it as an added dimension of pleasure we can both enjoy together and have enhance our fun before, during, and after. I think she looks more at it like it’s performative. I struggle to get her on the same page of understanding how much more casual things can be handled.

Also, she loves me watching and being involved… but maybe that messes with the idea of performing rather than just enjoying herself. I hope at some point we can find a local regular guy that she can try playing with solo, or at least in a room alone where she doesn’t have to worry about putting on a show for me. It’s a lot to navigate.

Oh, that’s definitely a huge part of it. She’s very against the idea of someone coming to our place also. Discretion is huge for us. Can’t just piss away the years we put into our education and careers. It’d be devastating and life changing

I really appreciate your input and thorough response. Really put things into perspective for me. Everything you said makes a lot of sense and you sound very similar to my wife.

I think a lot of our situation also is we don’t ever find luck/interest with local guys. So each time we play tends to have to turn into a whole event of planning travel and/or a day/days off to be available to do the traveling. It can be pretty time consuming having to get schedules to align for travel. And personally… all that setup makes it less fun. Spontaneous fun would be so much hotter in my opinion.

Agreed. I think my wife is similar. She can’t hide the fact that MFM threesomes and hotwifing/cuckolding is a huge turn on for both of us… but she for whatever reason just can’t get into talking to these guys and setting things up. I have fully given her the go ahead on texting, sexting, and setting up anything she ever wants to. Just no luck yet. Once things calm down with work and she’s less stressed, i could see things start to move in a good direction though. We’ve had great conversations recently.

She has a hard time thinking she’ll have better and/or great sex in general with anyone else. Even though she’s had great sex with our two previous bulls. She always says she enjoys sex the most when there’s emotion and real passion, which makes sense… but i try to frame it as “well, if i’m there, i can help contribute to all of that… and these are experienced guys.. they know what they’re doing”. I’m flattered by her saying nobody will fuck her better than me… but it’s just a wild take in my mind. I’m in good enough shape, decent stamina, 7 inch cock (that i can still hit her cervix with at times), but i don’t see myself as any more than a 8/10 fuck. There’s plenty of stronger, more experienced, better stamina, better body type guys out there that i think she’d enjoy equally and possibly even more given the right comfort has been established. I think she has a hard time embracing it all and doing it more often because she judges herself a bit maybe? Idk

I agree. It’s just tough to find a good middle ground of what works best

I like that idea. It can be difficult to know when to bring it up. She’s pretty busy and stressed out from work a lot of the time. I can’t help but think “Now isn’t a good time to bring this up because i don’t want to add another thing to her plate and stress her out more”.

Agreed. Luckily i do have a very sexy wife. We post here and fetlife a lot. We look on 3fun, sdc, and sls too. Sdc we have some really sexy play pics. There is a part of us that thinks we should be a bit more conservative about what we post because we probably come off as a bit more into it and experienced than we are. We’re opening up to couples and single women. Ready to give that a go and see how we feel about it if the right situation comes about. Thinking of going to a hotel takeover soon. Getting dressed up sexy together and seeing how it all feels. No plans to play, but just to feed off the fun sexy energy of it all. While me obviously getting turned on by showing her off.

I’m open to as frequent as she wants it. I definitely lean on the cuckold side of things. I love watching. I love the teasing. Sloppy seconds/reclaiming is so hot too. I also really enjoy the threesome part of it too though. I’m very switch about it, but would prefer more of a cuckold nature to our adventures, which she seems to be turned on by, just reserved about actually setting things up

Sdc, Sls, reddit, 3fun.

Bigger dick than me (over 7 inches), well groomed, attractive to her, experienced, open to filming, a good conversationalist, clean (with recent testing) are some of our requirements

This is such great advice. I appreciate you taking the time to type out such a thoughtful response. I learned a lot from reading your post