“Freshman” Year - We didn’t know what we didn’t know. She was unsure, insecure, slowly learning the ropes, easing into encounters so nervously with major concerns about anyone in my real life knowing. We still keep things very discreet, but it felt absolutely mortifying to be associated with the “swinger world”. During “Freshman year”, she met a few cool people who coached her, was deceived by some, and also experienced some mind blowing sex leading us to want more.

“Sophomore” Year - We searched through different types to attempt finding our kink crowd. We found that we weren’t quite swingers. She tried new things like knowingly married (all ethical now), FWBs, sex club, threesomes, etc. There were some checklists - cop/firefighter/pilot, car sex, 10 years younger, threesome, travel with a bull, etc. She got to too attached to some and had experiences that were not great. Ultimately, the checklists opened her mind and allowed her to confidently say what she doesn’t like or want.

“Junior” Year was a total level up. She gained confidence, became more direct about what she wanted, left the situations when risks outweighed the benefits, and learned to ask the right questions upfront. Her ability to discern when she was being used helped her ensure the play was always mutually beneficial for all parties. She learned to trust her instincts. In this phase she can successfully attract men “in the wild” because her confidence is off the charts. Although she rarely seeks this type of thing…and will retire to her room with the thought that she could have easily fucked him. Tease…maybe?! Her play has become focused entirely on quality - asking for what she wants, trusting her gut, and remaining firm on her boundaries. This has resulted in less but much more satisfying play during her Junior year.

Our “Senior” Year of kink begins soon! She seems to know exactly who she is and what she wants: she is a sexy, submissive hotwife whose desire is to fully submit herself for the first time to one very attentive, classy dominant bull. She is learning about the work it takes to be a truly great dom, and hopes to find a man who is willing to invest that kind of energy into her. She wants to feel the butterflies and giddy desire to please someone great. She is not going to settle for anything less.