Hey everyone, long time admirer, and I have a question for anyone with experience with this particular background: trauma from past relationships.

Disclaimer, I (33M) and super into the idea of my fiancé (32F) having partners, allowing her feminine goddess to explore, and being the safety and security that she returns to for care and re-coupling. I have shared this desire, and while she definitely doesn’t share it, she hasn’t slammed the door shut.

I believe in allowing all things to unfold in their time, but part of her hesitation comes from an adult lifetime of sexual abuse and trauma from previous relationships. In our years together, I’ve seen a lot of healing and growth, but acknowledge that she has experienced so much that I could never understand or relate to… so if we never open it up, that is okay… there is no pressure.

But I was thinking, maybe there are other women- and men- who have had positive growth and healing after trauma, that enabled them to do something they thought they’d never do: feel safe enough to allow their mind and body to ENJOY sexual exploration.

Our sex is great, and has only gotten more beautiful the more communication, time, and love that we share… have any of you experienced this, and gone even further in your discovery of the inner goddess? What are some techniques, practices, boundaries, principles, etc. that have opened your heart and head?

Thank you so much! Thankful for you all!!