Thanks to everyone in advance for the information and support in here. Wife and I have been together for 12 years. We had 2 children and she was a stay at home mom with them. This fall for the first time they were both in school all day and I noticed a drastic change in my wife.

Gone were the baggy sweatpants, loose t shirts, frazzled hair. She’s always had a great body, but she now only wears yoga pants, bike shorts, tight tops, etc. I started noticing men staring every time we would go anywhere. Grocery store, school pick up, gym, etc. It actually started to be somewhat arousing. I would mention it to her about a guy staring or checking her out and she would smile and laugh about it. This progressed to her telling me about other men staring or trying to flirt when she was out without me during the day.

I’ve even noticed at kids practices/sporting games she takes an hour getting ready (hair, make up, picking an outfit) and all the other dads stare without even trying to by sly about it. One time while we were having sex I started telling her how good she looked and how many guys were checking her out and wanting her and she started to go pretty crazy. Could tell it turned her on.

Should I just stay the course and gently encourage, or just rip it off like a band aid? She seems like she’d be very receptive to the idea lately. Anyone been through something similar?