Long time lurker, first time posted. First, a little background.

Fiancé and I have been together 5 years, but have known each other quite a bit longer. Before we got together we both had a little bit of a rep for sleeping around, although her numbers well exceeded mine. I had been trying to date her for years, but always got denied or never had the balls to take the leap. Eventually, we got together after 10 years in the friend zone. It’s been mostly and we’ve been committed outside of a trip she made overseas weeks after we started dating (she planned the trips month before) where she got drunk and made out with a guy at the bar. She also came clean about it shortly after she got back.

She knows I’ve got a lot of kinks and I’ve mentioned sharing her/hotwifing/watching her get fucked more than once. She’s always been hesitant about it and did circle back around that she doesn’t think she could c*ck me, but maybe I could watch her with a toy. It didn’t take me long to go get one after that chat, but I haven’t felt a good time to give it to her with my “request.” During sex she goes suck my thumb as I fuck her from behind (a la Eiffel Tower) but when I ask what that’s about she just acts coy.

Fast forward to last weekend and she goes out with friends. No big deal and I fall asleep around 1am. I’m not sure when she gets home, but it feels like 2:30am and she’s tipsy/climbing on me in bed and trying to get me to fuck her and that she’s aching for it. Admittedly I’d jerked off earlier that night so I wasn’t sure I’d have enough in the tank for her and I was exhausted. No sex.

All is well, things seem normal until a couple days later I’m fixing something on her phone and can’t help but open Snap. Nothing seems odd… except when I go into her recent searches I see a guys name come up that she 1.) slept with before we fit together and 2.) hasn’t “gotten the hint” that she’s taken when we’ve seen him out and about. In the past (about a year ago) she would dismiss him but this time I notice she’s cleared him out of her recent messages as to, assumedly, “cover up.” Upon clicking in further I see she called him at 1:41 in the morning Saturday which is right about bar close.

I don’t know if they did anything and if I had to guess they didn’t, but I’m conflicted all the same. I haven’t brought it up outside of asking if she did anything out of the normal that night and when she got home. She said they (her and her friends) left before bar close and nothing exciting happened.

All of this said, I’m conflicted. I want to bring it up, but I also want to let her know that I don’t mind and enjoy the thought of it, not to think she’s in trouble. Of course I wish the news didn’t come looking so scandalous, but I believe all is well that ends well and if she has an unmet need she deserves to have it fulfilled.

Short version… I found some covered up messages between my fiancé and a guy she fucked before her and I got together. I’m wondering if this may be a chance to further go down the path of her being a hotwife.