I (the husband, and this is a shared account) vet most of the potential guys, share a few tame photos, ask hard questions, get things upfront about what my wife and I want out of it all. I get to know the guy essentially first, so not to waste my wifes time with details etc.

If they get that far (most don't for various reasons) they then get to chat to my wife on snap and she tries to get to know them more with the goal of a coffee date. Unfortunately for those few that get even that far, some of them change personalities or just simply ghost her after a few days. She is always friendly, asks questions, makes conversation, and joins in with the subtle sexting they try.

The guys usually know what she looks like (shes attractive and curvy), they know what we want and our schedules and requirements, they all seem keen to chat to her.

But why the ghosting after all of that work to get there?

My wife is feeling dispondant after the last few potential guy's she really liked. Everything seemed to fit into place. They seemed to chat to her like old friends. It was the first time she has chatted to two at once, she liked the attention, but then one just ghosted and now the other one simply will not commit to a coffee.

I asked her how I can help her, she said she just can't deal with the rejection. I said that some guys are just asses and it's got nothing to do with her. But she is reluctant to speak to any others now for the fear of rejection again.

Please understand that I chat to dozens of them and majority of them dont make the mark (distances/schedules as we're remote, mutual attraction, personality clashes with me or just completly disgusting pieces of work). So I shield her from the most of them. Our RHP profile is very specific

I don't know how to explain to my wife that our unicorn is out there, we just have to sift through the mediocre to get to them. 9 out of the 10 guys I talk to are jumping out of thier skin to chat to her after they see a photo.

Are there any hotwives on this forum that cano reply to her for advice and to build her confidence? How to deal with the emotional roller coaster, sift through the masses so to speak and keep an objective view on the whole process? or just to try to understand not to take it personally (I know she cant, and I hate she feels that way).