So my husband brought up this fantasy 3 years ago and it’s been a long journey full of starts and stops, some fights and lots of communication. When he first brought it up, I didn’t even know what a hotwife was, I thought it meant MILF or something like that. I was completely surprised that there was a whole “lifestyle” associated with it. I was also confused because we had a great sex life and marriage (hubby was my first and only) and we’ve been together for 19 years.

After brining up the idea of sharing me, I went through all the typical emotions of “no way”, “does he just want a reason to fuck another woman?”, “the idea is kind of hot but I’m not “that girl”” ect. We role played over the years, I chatted with some guys and slowly warmed up to the idea. There was no one thing he said or did that changed my mind, but I think it was just a “why not give it a try” attitude that pushed me over the edge. For Valentine’s Day I said, fine let’s go to a swing club and see how it’s….well it sucked 😂 the club was Smokey, people were unattractive and we just didn’t feel a sexy fun vibe, I think we left after about an hour and a half and I thought we stayed an hour too long. 😂

We talked and talked and played out the scene and how it wasn’t what we desired. I continued to talk to a couple guys and one kept my interest. He wasn’t pushy, i enjoyed the sporadic conversation but as a mom, business owner and wife I didn’t want a penpal so I appreciated his patience. About 6 months later I said let’s meet “L” and let’s meet at the same sex club we went to in February. I thought it would be a good setting because it was so far out of our normal life.

So we set up a Friday night, got a babysitter and went to the club to meet L. I told my husband that under no circumstances anything would be happening that night aside from maybe kissing. So we go and meet up with L. He was late 😔 but apologetic and it gave us time to settle in before he arrived. When he did we had a little chit chat and as we settled down standing on the dance floor my hubby excused himself to get drinks. At the time L took my hand, spun me around to admire my outfit and pulled me closer for a kiss. 💋. This was the first time in almost 20 years I had kissed someone other than my husband. Throughout the next two hours or so, I danced alternating with my husband and L. I enjoyed making out with L and feeling his hands all over my body. It was hot to make eye contact with my husband while dancing with someone new. We both left the evening riding high and communicated the whole time. It was a great first meeting and we were excited to set up a second meet…at a hotel 😉.

The hotel meet was about two or three weeks after our initial meeting. We were both nervous, excited, scared, horny, pretty much all the emotions. We drove down to the nearest City and got to the hotel about an hour before L was supposed to arrive. We busied ourselves with getting the room and ourselves ready. L texted that he was there and my hubby said his heart was racing and stomach was turning 😂 but he went to the lobby to escort him up to the room. I handled last minute primping and before I realized they were keying into the room. When they arrived I felt calm and ready. We talked for about 5-10 minutes and it was good to remember we’re all people, and it wasn’t this scary situation. L mentioned the Lingerie strap he could see and asked if it was the picture I sent him. I said it was and my hubby said, “why don’t you show him”. So I stood up and my husband shimmying my short dress up over my hips, revealing my ass and thong for L. From that moment on, I had someone’s hands on me for the next two-three hours. It was fun, light, sexy, and enjoyable. Both L and my hubby took turns with me, we swap positions, styles and they both enjoyed getting me off while they both came twice.

After L left, we took a shower and basked in the absurdity of what just happened and how “normal” it felt. We both were on cloud 9 and it was weird how close we felt after just inviting someone between us. Throughout the rest of the day and the next day as well as the weeks that past, it continued to be a great experience that brought us closer together.

I went from not kissing anyone in 20 years and only having sex with my husband to just last week saying “I think I’ll have 4 new guys before I’m 40” 😂 I’m looking forward to 2025, and exploring the options that we have, while continuing to be safe, picky and keeping our relationship as the top Priority. 😘