I’m dating an awesome woman but I’ve been reticent to divulge my hotwife kink to her.

Little things she’s said have implied she is very attracted to masculine dominance and repulsed by male submissiveness. We have incredible sex, but I’ve come to realize I am not truly compatible with a woman who would judge me or be turned off by this fantasy.

The biggest appeal of hotwifing to me is the trust, vulnerability, intimacy, and consciousness to do it in a healthy way. I want to nurture my partner and help her grow into the most confident, fulfilled version of herself.

I think traditional social conditioning would likely make this a turn off to many women. I am strong and protective, but I don’t always want to be dominant. There’s something so incredibly sexy about the unique women who can adore and playfully tease a man for his more submissive sexual tendencies while also understanding he is a multidimensional being capable of great strength and dominance when necessary. Like always being ready to protect her.

I fear it’s one of those fantasies that would give most woman “the ick” and make them unable to see me the same anymore. I think because of that vulnerability it’s the only way I could truly fall in love, because I am not unveiling my full self if I am always in the dominant role.

I’m curious to hear this community’s thoughts on this because I don’t yet have real life experience. Thank you