I’ve posted a few times on here about mine and my wife’s journey. This time last year my wife was completely unaware of my fantasies, but following her work Christmas party, when she wore tight vinyl trousers that showed off her amazing ass, I confided about the fantasies I had.

She took it better than expected - first disbelief then surprise, slowly getting to understand, still coming to terms with it. We now regularly role play with the hotwife fantasy using her dildo that I bought earlier this year. She sometimes teases me before a girls night. We’re having a lot of fun whilst having not really moved forward any.

I recently had a childhood friend to stay who I only see every few years (no, we didn’t have sex) - after several drinks we had a really forthright discussion the 3 of us about life, sex and other things (he’s perpetually single and was reminiscing on the “if I was married” and how we must fuck all the time - to which we said no, life, kids etc have got in the way and we’re really rediscovering our sex lives). My wife mentioned about how she knows I find her sexy but I have to - but she doesn’t feel it all the time. He complimented the hell out of her, said all the right things. She was a bit embarrassed but also clearly flattered. He left with parting advice about how we should never be afraid of fantasies, sex is sex, we should always make sure we’re having fun. Etc etc. Drunken advice. His parting comment “if I was married I’d be totally into sharing”. I’d never mentioned the fantasy to him but clearly he could sense it was something that’s come up.

We left it there but I definitely felt it helped her relax and feel sexy, and also validated that I’m not a total deviant! I fucked her hard that night, for a long time, and we talked about how I can help her to feel sexy, and how we can work with our (now shared) fantasy in a safe manner - we talked about:

• more detailed role play and getting a realistic/bigger dildo
• dressing more provocatively when we go out, enjoying her getting eyefucked, letting her know, perhaps watching her flirt
• her texting me during a night out telling me what is happening (role play again)
• moving towards talking with other guys online anonymously but unsure where to start, and nervous about it;
• posting pics on Reddit (she didn’t even know that was a thing, sounded intrigued but cautious - wouldn’t want anything that can come back to her given our jobs);

So, since then, she’s asked me to get her a skin-coloured dildo - which I have - and it’s thick!

We are coming up to this year’s work Christmas Party and she’s planning to wear the same tight trousers - she’s now asked me to choose her some new panties to wear underneath that she can feel sexy and a bit naughty in. I asked who’d be seeing them, she said “you - when I come home… but who knows who’ll have touched them?”

Looking forward to these next steps, still nurturing her into the fantasy - but enjoying the thoughts of how we can continue to progress and have fun!

Now off to look for some sexy panties for her to wear - what would people like to find on a nice innocent looking 30s milf at her Christmas party? She’s not going to wear a crotchless or pearl crotch, but a sexy and reasonably comfy thong would definitely go down well!