TLDR; boyfriend told me he is in to wife sharing 3 months in to being together. A few months down the line it transpires he’s actually more of a bull (he big big) and I don’t feel like I’m what he needs sexually. 1 year in and found a photo of a girls Snapchat in his deleted photos

I need gentle advice on how to approach this situation, I’m feeling very low at the minute so would appreciate kind words Background: we have been together for 1 year, our sex life has always been special, nothing else comes close. 3 months in to dating we started going in depth about kinks. I’m in to CNC and being a sub, he’s in to the whole hotwife thing, he likes the idea of sharing and it’s something we have said we would possibly explore when we are more settled down. The more we spoke about it it turns out he’s actually more of a bull and this is the kind of thing he would seek out before he met me, he was on swinging sites but said he never met anyone. I have two kids who he didn’t mean until 6 months in to dating and he’s been nothing but amazing with them, he stays with me 4 nights per week and works nights the rest of that week.

He’s very gifted downstairs and we joke that it’s 3 and a half potato’s long because he can get 3 and a half hands up it. Our sex life started with him wanting to make ME his, and has gradually drifted towards role playing that I was someone elses and he was taking me from them (making me his) so I’m kind of feeling like I can’t fulfill that bull side of things. This role play is about 90% of our sex life. I’ve brought up that I feel like he’s more of a bull before but he always maintained that he wants no one else but me and he’s clearly attracted to me. Our sex is still amazing

Things have been a bit of a strain these last few weeks and we haven’t had as much time for each other, he works nights and he’s always tired which is understandable, we try to make the most out of our free time. Now here’s the real issue.. I found a screenshot of a girls Snapchat in his photos which was taken a few weeks ago, I could tell by the date and time that it was just as he was going in to work. His Snapchat is full of Hotwife accounts that he used to follow and he just hadn’t been through that recently apparently which is believable as he’s had the account well before he met me. But he’s saying that he screenshot it to show me what kinda stuff was popping up on his suggestions, however his whole suggestion list were full of these and if he’s followed nsfw accounts on Snapchat for years then he’s obviously always had those suggestions. Searched her as a friend from his phone and he had obviously been friends with her before because as soon as I clicked add she became a friend without having to wait for her to accept. I checked her account on twitter and she is exactly the kinda thing he would be looking for, a size queen. I feel like his excuse just doesn’t add up and I need others input as I feel I’m either over reacting or being fooled blind. I don’t think he’s talking to them on Snapchat because his score isn’t going up, maybe he is just looking at stories and that wouldn’t bother me but his answer isn’t sitting right in my gut. What would you think?