Ok so a bit of background I (M38) sort of stumbled across this sub a couple of weeks ago after I was majorly turned on by the thought of me rubbing my wife's (F34) clit whilst she's getting fucked by a guy with a much bigger cock than mine (I'm exactly average btw) and when I say majorly turned on I mean instant full blown throbbing erection... It weirded me out a bit at the time because the way society works blah blah baggage, anyway I get it now. In fact I'd argue Hotwifing is probably closer to what nature intended from an evolutionary perspective, anyway I digress.

My wife and I have been experimenting with in the bedroom of late, we've always been adventurous (married 13 years together for 15) and we've always had a top class sex life that has continued to get better and better. We're not bored of each other far from it. We fuck at least 5 times a week at the moment and occasionally multiple times a day depending on mood workload etc. oh and we manage to do that with 2 kids in the house. I guess what I'm saying is I'm very happy and satisfied with the way things are, and if they stay this way until either of us die I will consider myself extremely fortunate to have found such an ideal partner.

I've always been obsessed with making my wife cum for me watching her in those peak moments where her grip on reality has entirely left her body because it's been replaced with a seemingly overwhelming amount of pleasure that I will forever be envious of... Well it's like nothing else, it's my favourite drug. This has been the case for as long as I can remember.

So after lurking in here for a while, I thought fuck it I decided to take a risk. I regularly surprise my wife with sex toys. They're my version of flowers, we've bought some incredible ones over the years. But oh my fuck nothing could've prepared me for the spectacle that I was about to unleash. I bought a 7 inch long 6.5 inch girth cock sleeve. It cost £15 and it outshines toys that cost several times that much with the quality and quantity of orgasms it provides. It's incredible. I can't cum with it on but I couldn't care less because when I'm fucking her with it she cums so hard so fast and so frequently it's overwhelming for me her brain literally melted into the pillow earlier. We've now started referring to it as "the other guy." Tonight I actually got her to say "I want the other guy to fuck me now" it was insanely hot hearing those words come out of her mouth...

So now that I've filled in a bit of background fast forward to today as I'm writing this she's passed out on the bed after a particularly intense session, during the pillow talk at the end I finally plucked up the courage to tell her about Hotwifing, I'd already mentioned the fantasy to her a couple of weeks ago when it happened so I used that as my in "oh you remember that fantasy I had? Well it turns out it's pretty common and there's this whole subculture of husbands and wives that get off on the wife fucking other guy's, it's called Hotwifing." She said "so that's why your libido has been so high lately you've found a new kink" my wife has always had a much higher sex drive than mine but recently I've started to outpace her just a bit and now she's the one struggling to keep up. Which is a nice change of scenery to be honest.

So I told her about you guys and a bunch of different posts I've read and covered a whole bunch of stuff tbh, I made sure to emphasize that this was entirely about her pleasure, and that my ideal would be for her to fuck a guy that can make her cum like nothing she's ever experienced whilst I was present either watching from touching distance or involved with her stimulation some how. I decided to end it with, "so how do you feel about all of that?" And she said she finds it hot as a fantasy but couldn't imagine making it a reality.

All I can say is thanks to everyone here for the advice I've seen in other posts they've helped me understand not only more about myself but also opened my eyes to a whole other world of exciting ideas and opportunities.

I consider myself extremely fortunate to have not been given a hard no at this point, what I would like to say to people in a similar situation is my wife and I have worked incredibly hard on our communication over those 13 years and we really only turned a corner within the last 2 years a year or 2 prior to that we both admitted we were on the verge of calling it quits. It has taken a tremendous amount of grit and determination to stick it out to this point but we now feel better than we ever have, we've been through a lot together and we both acknowledge that we would never do anything to jeapordise what we have or pressure the other to do something the don't like the idea of. For now we're happy to play in our new found fantasy world.

My wife has a CNC kink and I think a combination of our 2 fantasies is in order. I'm thinking about tying her up blindfolded and forcing orgasms until she begs me to stop them fetching "the other guy" without saying anything at all and just going to work I might even buy some different aftershave to enhance the illusion that she's getting fucked by another guy against her will, then when she can't take anymore without saying a thing I'll put the other guy away I'll remove her blindfold and untie her, and then have some amazing faux reclaim sex.

It's been quite the ride but thanks so much for this community and the absolutely amazing advice I've stolen from other posts.

If you have anything to offer about anything I've said above please feel free to chip in. Any recommendations for resources we can read/watch or listen to together would be very welcome whilst I'm keen to explore this new found kink I want to do so in a kind respectful and considerate way always trying to remain sensitive to my wife's headspace. I've seen many posts on here from people who are perhaps a bit to eager, for me I feel we are in a very comfortable safe place to explore the fantasy side of this kink together as a couple, so any suggestions would also be most welcome. If anyone has any questions I'll do my best to answer, I'll probably show her this post in the morning, so be nice because she's probably going to see what you've all said.