We just had our first solo play date for my wife since about four years ago when we first entered the LS. I’m frankly very surprised today by my neediness for attention from her. It’s been a long time in the couple swap and MFM arena where I’ve needed any meaningful aftercare in the days that followed. I’m a mess today after her solo date with a husband of a couple we’ve played with before. Can’t figure out why and I’m just chalking it up to a need for aftercare.
My version of aftercare so far has been talking through all the details of her date, seeing some short video clips, two rounds of reconnection sex, and cuddling up for a nap together. I’ve already asked for us to take a shower together later.
What do the other husbands here need during the days following an intense play experience? I’m trying to give myself some grace here but I feel like I’m on the edge of a breakdown and can’t figure out why given the whole experience really went as well as I could have wanted. Its just caught me off guard after thinking I was past this kind of post-play date neediness.