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Is it so crazy to want to make sure you agree on some basics before fucking? Both of us did while dating. Seemed normal. But so many potential 3rds get upset when we ask some basic questions (we never ask specifics of who/what people voted for). They argue that we should keep politics out of sex. I can see how that might work when you already have a good relationship with someone maybe but jeez, is it too much to ask that people think my wife should have human rights, be able to vote, etc?
Some people like being treated like an object, something to be used. My wife does not. So is it so strange that she's want to male sure the person she's fucking wouldn't be okay with her being deported, or having less rights than the man she's fucking?
We both have almost always discussed family planning issues with potential partners in the past. Why should that change in the LS? How do you want to deal with any unplanned pregnancy should be an acceptable question we think.
I could go on and on, but that is the elementary concept. Some people want to grudge fuck, or be hate fucked, but that ain't us. Why is our political preference less valid to these men than a question about grooming or STIs? It's a preference.
It does make it an, easy screening tool when dozens of men at the least reply to any ad looking for 3rds, but why can't they take the questions with grace? Is that too much to expect in today's politically charged climate?
She wants to be sexually charged and not have that ruined by a dude saying some fuckec up shit during drinks. Isn't that okay?
Rant over
Seems wild to me to assume you know how someone feels about your wife based on who they voted for. In Florida 57% of the people voted in favor of abortion but much less for Harris. Places like Missouri and Iowa, voted in favor of abortion and Trump. It seems to show people can be for abortion and favor Trump. Who knows maybe I’m just simple minded.
Anyway the only way we’d be turned off by someone’s political beliefs would be if they tried to talk to us about them, regardless of which team they’re on.
Why would a dude against interracial relationships get involved in an interracial relationship? Also how would you know they were simply by knowing who they voted for?
You basically only have two choices, it’s near impossible to pick a candidate you can agree with on every issue. People are choosing who they think is less bad for them personally. I’m not one of them but people feel like their economic problems are the most important. If someone feels like they can’t pay their rent or buy enough food, it’s going be hard to convince them to vote on social issues.
Dude you’re talking about peoples values and you respond like that? I asked a question in good faith and you insult me? Good lord man.
Also I don’t live in Florida, I’m pro-choice, and I voted for Harris.
I apologize. It's been a long day of dealing with hate from people who could just say "ok were not a good fit bye"
I probably would have agreed with you before that experience but you’re making assumptions and at least in our singular experience those assumptions weren’t true. But I do think with how you respond and your initial post, it’s a topic that is supremely important to you and your wife and one that you shouldn’t compromise on.
Agreed and it may be the specifics of who dodges questions is regional etc
My husband and I don’t even agree on politics. I give zero shits about politics as long as they don’t talk about them. I do want to be treated with respect though.
Well we agree on that
Why would a dude against interracial relationships get involved in an interracial relationship? Also how would you know they were simply by knowing who they voted for?
You basically only have two choices, it’s near impossible to pick a candidate you can agree with on every issue. People are choosing who they think is less bad for them personally. I’m not one of them but people feel like their economic problems are the most important. If someone feels like they can’t pay their rent or buy enough food, it’s going be hard to convince them to vote on social issues.
You basically only have two choices, it’s near impossible to pick a candidate you can agree with on every issue. People are choosing who they think is less bad for them personally. I’m not one of them but people feel like their economic problems are the most important. If someone feels like they can’t pay their rent or buy enough food, it’s going be hard to convince them to vote on social issues.
Idk what that means, but I'm inclined to agree. Just don't know why men don't respect other people's pleasure equation, unless ofc they don't respect women's wishes at all.
Google how "your body, my choice" is trending
So you live in Texas? And you’d let your wife carry another dude’s baby for x weeks?
I dunno I guess cause it doesn’t take that long to know?
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
So you would need the dudes permission to get an abortion? Crazy man.
So you live in Texas? And you’d let your wife carry another dude’s baby for x weeks?
I dunno I guess cause it doesn’t take that long to know?
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
I've heard any sex can result in pregnancy. Are we wrong?
Yes but pregnancy is political now, sooooo
I appreciate you providing these details and I think I understand but maybe not, because even in your scenario they’d still know by six weeks rignt?
I’m not MAGA and didn’t vote for Trump but I’d pass by a profile saying “No MAGA” just as quickly as one saying “no libtards”. We’re in the lifestyle for sex not to talk politics.
Hahaha they just do Not-see what the problem is supporting anti-democratic policies tho. You're right, when meeting in person it's easier, but then it's awk and my fiesry wife starts trying to throw them bows
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
I agree with this 100% but just don’t be whining about how hard it is to find matches.
Thank you. I needed that sanity check
Politics affect every breath you take. Accept that, or ignore it at your peril.
Why should I fuck you if we, don't agree, on family planning for instance? That's basic shit
What to do when someone gets pregnant is not a deep discussion when it comes to sex. It's basic "responsibilities of being an adult" shit
Why would a dude against interracial relationships get involved in an interracial relationship? Also how would you know they were simply by knowing who they voted for?
You basically only have two choices, it’s near impossible to pick a candidate you can agree with on every issue. People are choosing who they think is less bad for them personally. I’m not one of them but people feel like their economic problems are the most important. If someone feels like they can’t pay their rent or buy enough food, it’s going be hard to convince them to vote on social issues.
I mean of course, “your body, my choice” is a ridiculous thing to think never mind say out loud, it’s just as ridiculous to think 76 million Trump others agree with it.
It’s not your preferences people object to, it’s the condescending attitude and looking down on people bc they have different opinions than you.
So you live in Texas? And you’d let your wife carry another dude’s baby for x weeks?
I dunno I guess cause it doesn’t take that long to know?
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
I totally didn't mean to be a dick btw. Just like. It's rough trying to just stand up for some shit that matters to you and it shouldn't be. It's not like we're protesting in the streets or rioting, just saying "my hot ass half Mexican wife doesn't want your pro mass deportation dick"
True. You can only ask so much, but you gotta ask something
My husband and I don’t even agree on politics. I give zero shits about politics as long as they don’t talk about them. I do want to be treated with respect though.
Well we agree on that
I'm just saying. You don't know they're not racist without asking questions. Whether they are into her or not
So you would need the dudes permission to get an abortion? Crazy man.
So you live in Texas? And you’d let your wife carry another dude’s baby for x weeks?
I dunno I guess cause it doesn’t take that long to know?
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
You basically only have two choices, it’s near impossible to pick a candidate you can agree with on every issue. People are choosing who they think is less bad for them personally. I’m not one of them but people feel like their economic problems are the most important. If someone feels like they can’t pay their rent or buy enough food, it’s going be hard to convince them to vote on social issues.
I keep getting excited due to some other random shit we have in common, then I ask and it's all fucked. Not always but sometimes
Most r4r forums won't allow you to say "no MAGA" or "no baby killers" for that matter. That's the annoying part. Yes we could pin a post, but no one looks at profiles before messaging
I agree and we just went through this with a 3rd. We specifically said who we voted for and asked if they felt comfortable sharing who they voted for and the response was “I don’t feel comfortable sharing that”. Which essentially gave us our answer. This was tough because we had a good first (non sex) meeting a couple weeks before the election and planned a hotel meet for the weekend after. So we had a decision to make. We decided to move forward because 1. He declined to answer so we didn’t know for sure. 2. He gave off no extreme vibes 3. We aren’t dating, and we enjoyed every aspect of our conversation, family values ect that was provided. The meeting was great, the sex was great, the conversation and all during, in between and after was all great so yes politics never came up, yes we could probably guess he voted opposite of how we voted. We go back and forth on if this was a gross compromise in our values or if this was us, judging the person for the person we met and “know” versus the story we could weave based on information we didn’t have…doesn’t answer your question but I think it’s worth asking of 3rds if that’s important to your convictions…
I probably would have agreed with you before that experience but you’re making assumptions and at least in our singular experience those assumptions weren’t true. But I do think with how you respond and your initial post, it’s a topic that is supremely important to you and your wife and one that you shouldn’t compromise on.
Agreed and it may be the specifics of who dodges questions is regional etc
Of course it is, no question, you don’t have to hook up with anyone for whatever reason you choose. Just don’t be like OP and whine when people don’t like you judging them for their politics.
I dunno I guess cause it doesn’t take that long to know?
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
So it seems obvious you’re pro-life and those are the values you want in a partner. So your concern is one of these guys gets your girl pregnant (which seems like an absurd premise) and then what he won’t let her get an abortion? Like that would be up to him, you’d require his permission ?
I agree and we just went through this with a 3rd. We specifically said who we voted for and asked if they felt comfortable sharing who they voted for and the response was “I don’t feel comfortable sharing that”. Which essentially gave us our answer. This was tough because we had a good first (non sex) meeting a couple weeks before the election and planned a hotel meet for the weekend after. So we had a decision to make. We decided to move forward because 1. He declined to answer so we didn’t know for sure. 2. He gave off no extreme vibes 3. We aren’t dating, and we enjoyed every aspect of our conversation, family values ect that was provided. The meeting was great, the sex was great, the conversation and all during, in between and after was all great so yes politics never came up, yes we could probably guess he voted opposite of how we voted. We go back and forth on if this was a gross compromise in our values or if this was us, judging the person for the person we met and “know” versus the story we could weave based on information we didn’t have…doesn’t answer your question but I think it’s worth asking of 3rds if that’s important to your convictions…
I probably would have agreed with you before that experience but you’re making assumptions and at least in our singular experience those assumptions weren’t true. But I do think with how you respond and your initial post, it’s a topic that is supremely important to you and your wife and one that you shouldn’t compromise on.
Agreed and it may be the specifics of who dodges questions is regional etc
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
But you're right I mean, ffs o wouldn't care what half these comments said if I wasn't waiting for someone at work so I can help them, finish, and go tf home
Maybe you're right? Idk. Most people at least like to not be misunderstood or misinterpreted
You can continue if you'd like
https://www.newsweek.com/senate-passes-respect-marriage-act-1763282
Okay but why can't people accept that it's important to some people. I'm not trying to get people to agree with us, I'm trying to get them to just understand our point of view as, opposed to downplaying the importance of our concerns.
Maybe I'm trying to hard. I'll be done with waiting here to leave work soon enough and busy enough bit to respond, that may help
EXACTLY! Like maybe we wanna hang out and not just fuck
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
Oh you asked for congressman? Sorry so many responses coming in, I must be fucking up on my reading too. Hold up
I dunno I guess cause it doesn’t take that long to know?
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
Who did I name call? I made fun of one person for bad reading comprehension
Okay, and? That's your opinion. That's the point. We want to know peoples opinions, and if they match we ours, we can fuck. If not, no one needs to be mad about it
And how many times have politicians lied and backbpedalled? You're right. They never do. Never have.
So you would need the dudes permission to get an abortion? Crazy man.
So you live in Texas? And you’d let your wife carry another dude’s baby for x weeks?
I dunno I guess cause it doesn’t take that long to know?
Yeah man the chance of using birth control, plus condoms, plus morning after and then not knowing for six weeks when tests can detect within 8 days and then the dude not wanting you to get an abortion is definitely worth stressing over.
You can have any criteria you want and should only play with who you want. If you don’t want to hear what people think about your criteria, then maybe don’t post asking what people think about your criteria. 🤷♂️
Fair dinkum
And btw, almost nobody thinks Matt Gaetz is a good pick for AG, even republican senators are saying he should withdraw his candidacy bc he isn’t likely to be confirmed. The freaking Wall Street Journal panned the pick.
I know that's a pretty weak screening question, but it'd get rid of the really unacceptable people I suppose
But like, these guys don't get mad if you're like - BBC only or whatever. So it seems. Idk just seems off. I get it but I wish it were different I suppose
People, don't read our profile as it is and you're only allowed a few words
Do you react this way when people ask, if you're tested for STIs tho?
Naw, it's easy enough to see if someone is an idiot without finding out they support 1700s mercantilist trade policies
I think you're thinking mostly of cuckolding, which is not what this sub is for
What are your feelings about J6?
Is global warming real?
What if I get pregnant?
Things like that
Not like, should the marginal tax rate on single people making 250k , or households earning 500k be raised by 2% to fund higher teacher pay, but not to pay for administrative costs?
Bruh, chill. You're the one who said most wives don't care. Which is untrue. I was just making fun of you. Don't say I'll advised stuff don't get made fun of
So it seems obvious you’re pro-life and those are the values you want in a partner. So your concern is one of these guys gets your girl pregnant (which seems like an absurd premise) and then what he won’t let her get an abortion? Like that would be up to him, you’d require his permission ?
Pregnancy is a lifelong partnership sometimes. More often these days
I think you're right, but to put it correctly, you're proving our point
I probably would have agreed with you before that experience but you’re making assumptions and at least in our singular experience those assumptions weren’t true. But I do think with how you respond and your initial post, it’s a topic that is supremely important to you and your wife and one that you shouldn’t compromise on.
Agreed and it may be the specifics of who dodges questions is regional etc
Yeah nah I got you dog. Thanks for helping me regain the perspective I've had most of my life. Don't know why I lost sight of that. Probably extraneous shit I couldn't control made me upset, and the people who said they wanted to tape my wife today (not in this thread thank God)
Yes yes women don't care about politics, that's why they shouldn't vote, right?
Condoms are literally 75% effective last I took sex ed
Seems wild to me to assume you know how someone feels about your wife based on who they voted for. In Florida 57% of the people voted in favor of abortion but much less for Harris. Places like Missouri and Iowa, voted in favor of abortion and Trump. It seems to show people can be for abortion and favor Trump. Who knows maybe I’m just simple minded.
Anyway the only way we’d be turned off by someone’s political beliefs would be if they tried to talk to us about them, regardless of which team they’re on.
Dude you’re talking about peoples values and you respond like that? I asked a question in good faith and you insult me? Good lord man.
Also I don’t live in Florida, I’m pro-choice, and I voted for Harris.
I apologize. It's been a long day of dealing with hate from people who could just say "ok were not a good fit bye"
It only brings us down when we get excited because we didn't ask soon enough, then they get butthurt and abusive.
So it seems obvious you’re pro-life and those are the values you want in a partner. So your concern is one of these guys gets your girl pregnant (which seems like an absurd premise) and then what he won’t let her get an abortion? Like that would be up to him, you’d require his permission ?
Dude you’re talking about peoples values and you respond like that? I asked a question in good faith and you insult me? Good lord man.
Also I don’t live in Florida, I’m pro-choice, and I voted for Harris.
I apologize. It's been a long day of dealing with hate from people who could just say "ok were not a good fit bye"
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Dude you’re talking about peoples values and you respond like that? I asked a question in good faith and you insult me? Good lord man.
Also I don’t live in Florida, I’m pro-choice, and I voted for Harris.
I apologize. It's been a long day of dealing with hate from people who could just say "ok were not a good fit bye"