Hello! M36 and F39 here with a goal of getting into non vanilla experiences soon or later...

Getting right to it... my wife is fully aware of my desire to open the relationship to other sexual partners, mfm threesomes, swap, etc. One of our main holdups is her not liking or understanding the "kink" or "lifestyle" elements that seem weird or strange, for a lack of better words.

I have suggested kink/lifestyle events but she thought they were to tacky and full of weirdos. Probably because those events included kink or bdsm stuff and there were interesting characters with crazy clothing, hair, etc, not her thing at all.

Any thoughts or suggestions on if a more regular or formal lifestyle scene is out there? Preferably in the Phoenix area. I am hetero and she is more than open to bi experiences, in fact that's her preferred starting point before other men.