My wife and I have swung and hotwifed infrequently over the last 2 years. All of her hotwife encounters have been at the swingers club. As we’ve discussed the lifestyle over the last few years she’s made it clear that she’s been uninterested in finding and vetting men outside the club. She’s said she’s open to chance encounters but she doesn’t like how forced it feels when you’re seeking thirds and arranging meetups. I’ve always been cool with this as it’s what’s worked for us but I’ve told her she has total freedom to explore hotwifing however she wants to.

Today she surprised me with a text telling me she had a date for tonight. She said she’d been keeping it a secret because she didn’t want to disappoint me in case it didn’t work out but she was getting dressed to head out to meet him. I’ve been working a lot lately and she’s been home alone a lot so she downloaded hinge a few weeks ago and matched with a guy she said she’d really clicked with and she was actually excited for a date. She’s currently at dinner with him while I’m at work writing this.