This is a post replicating one that I wrote on a previous account about the guys trying to "convince" their wives/girlfriends to get into the lifestyle.

The be and and end all is that if you put pressure on your partner, it is going to be a negative experience for all involved. Support, encouragement, patience and communication are absolutely essential!

I first told my wife about this kink back in 2010, just came out and said it while we were talking about things we'd like to try sexually. She was taken back and immediately said "not gonna happen". I left it. We continued on with our relationship, I won't say our sex life was vanilla, she absolutely loved me using large toys on her (and still does) and I have a massive foot fetish so there was always an element of kink.

A few years later I set up an Instagram page purely for her feet without her knowing and then a couple of days later told her about it and showed her how many followers, likes and comments complimenting her feet. She LOVED it. It was a huge confidence boost for her and she dived in with both feet, if you'll excuse the pun. Had she not had the reaction she did, I would have shut it down straight away!

This went on for a couple of years and she even had a few guys buy her new shoes and heels (they offered, it was not requested). I made a point of making sure she knew just how much I enjoyed sharing images of her, images that of course are going to be used for one thing. She did have requests to meet for foot sessions. I made it clear that I had no problem with her meeting someone else but she never went for it. Eventually the Instagram page was banned and we never ventured into it again but it was damn fun.

Only on occasion did I mention that I would like her to be a Hotwife, maybe once a year or something silly. I planted the seed and left her to think about it.

Skip forward to 2021 and my wife and I are walking through our local town centre when she grabs my hand, leans into my and whispers "I want another man to fuck me"........I was in shock.

We set up a profile on a site here in the UK where we were inundated with messages within an hour. It was all extremely overwhelming so we decided together to shut it down as quickly as we had set it up.

Nothing happened for a good while until she went out with a friend of hers for a few drinks where she began talking to a guy and eventually ended the night with a kissing session. She told me the following morning and explained that she was feeling extremely guilty. I told her that she had NOTHING to feel guilty about, it was the first step and she was bound to have some weird feelings. I, however, was incredibly turned on. I honestly think that that was the point where she realised that I wasn't into this to get her to cheat so we could separate and that I had no intention of sleeping with anyone myself. Compersion, not the exact definition but for me, the sense of getting pleasure from seeing someone else pleasured, fits.

From there we again decided to set up a profile on Fabswingers, only this time with a far more detailed bio and a click happy index finger over the block button. She began talking to a guy on there, built up a bit of rapport and after an incredibly nervous journey, met with him for a drink and some amazing fun!

It's been 2 years in the LS now and it's incredible. She has discovered so much about herself sexually, finding more of her own kinks and desires along the way. Her confidence is increased, her self esteem is way better and most importantly, we are closer than we have ever been.

Don't push this on your partner, tell them why you would like to try the lifestyle and then leave her to process it. Don't force it.

Thanks for reading all this! Any questions, feel free to ask!