We've been exploring the "Hotwife" lifestyle for about 3 months now, and it has really taken our relationship to the next level.

I posted a while back looking for the right guy(s) and we're lucky that we've found two that are fitting the bill so far. My wife is a bit unique in that she wants a connection, wants to go on dates, dinner, drinks, etc. She does get physical, but is not having sex with them. She says she may get there or may not get there, but that she is having a lot of fun doing this now. For her, she just doesn't feel like she can just jump into bed with anyone, just like she wouldn't do that if she was dating in a standard situation. I get that, and there has been only an increase in closeness between the two of us, so I am great with that.

She is on a date right now with a guy that she has seen maybe 5 times. They make out a ton and she says it gets her really hot the way they are constantly touching and kissing She sent me some very hot texts today - probably the best one asking if she could leave her wedding rings at home. I asked he why, and she said it helps her feel more free, lean in more, and worry less about waiters, etc (she insists on paying for herself).

Has anyone else had a similar situation that 1)potentially borders more on one sided poolt and 2)has this focus on physicality and connection, but not sex?