Most places on Reddit talk about how amazing the hotwifing experience has been. This has been a HUGE fantasy of mine for a long time.Obviously it takes a strong foundation and great communication among other things.

But I'm trying to weed past the porn and the guys that post about their "fictional" experiences to really understand the dynamics about this lifestyle.

I'd love to understand a couple things from both husband and wife POV.

For the husband's... How did you bring this fantasy up to your wife? How did you explain that this is about your attraction to her and expanding on that? I cannot find the words to properly describe why this is something that turns me on.

For the wives.... How did you react to your husband bringing this fantasy up? What did he say that was great? What did he say that was bad?

For either... What issues have come up that truly tested your marriage? Did you work through it and everything was good? Did anything permanently damage your marriage. Did being parents (if you are) make you feel more hesitant to getting into this lifestyle?

To the Christians... How do you navigate being a Christian and being in the lifestyle?

Thanks to all in advance.