I have been on a long extended break from the lifestyle. I come back, and I see all these new terms being used that I am not familiar with. I mean, I have seen some of the terms before but I am trying to determine the exact differences. Can someone please help with the following questions?

1. What are the exact differences between a hotwife and a vixen?

2. Is there a difference between a hotwife couple and a stag/vixen couple?

I don't even know how to properly label myself / us, so I will try to explain what we are in search of and hoping someone can determine the proper label that I should be using.

We are a straight married couple seeking a straight single male for a long term/ongoing fwb situation. I/we only see 1 person at a time. I ask that whoever I am seeing/having sex with to not be having sex with others also, as I am and always have been 100% clean and plan on staying that way. I am not able to have children anymore, so I prefer "bare".

An example scenario of a meet with whoever I am seeing would be something like this: He would come over to our place for the day and the 3 of us could take the boat to the lake. I would wear my bikini, and tease the living hell out of both my husband and the other guy throughout the day. Lol. Then head back to our place where the 3 of us take a shower (together of course), have a nice dinner, and finish the evening off in the bedroom.

We have had other guys stay overnight with us in our bed (me in the middle). This usually tends to lead to numerous sessions throughout the night. Lol

I do play alone, but I only play alone with someone after meeting with him on a regular basis (a couple to a few times a month) having regular straight threesomes for like 6 months. After both my husband and I are comfortable, then I will start meeting him alone.

I often refer to my regular as my "boyfriend". I just don't like the term "bull". I look at this as more of something like a fun married couple living life to the fullest.

Myself & my husband are not into any type of humiliation type scenarios.

That's about all I can think of.

Does anyone think this is more of a poly thing? I mean, I don't fall in love or anything.

To be blunt, I ❤️ having 2 cocks at once, and it is my husband's biggest turn on. I just want to be sure I am looking in the right places.

Thank you in advance!