My wife was raised with the extremely conservative and religious values. It was to the point that she thought that sex was not to enjoy but to make babies. It took me 15 years of convincing her that humans have sex for enjoyment the vast majority of the time. Now, she seems to be turning a leaf and starting to embrace her own sexuality.

I grew up in a failing Eastern European country during difficult times, so almost anything was considered normal. It is difficult to describe, but experimentation of all kinds was accepted and encouraged by everyone.

I am somewhat stuck in that state where I feel that experimentation and kinkiness is what makes life interesting and exciting. I want to give a small portion of this mindset to my wife because living in a template is very stable and secure but also seems rather dull at times. I love her and want her to experience life fully. Is she happy in her shell? Perhaps, but I'd call it being content.

I don't want to jinx it, but I have been slowly normalizing kinky things with her. My ultimate goal is to let her experience other sexual partners while she is still young and now that she knows that sex can be a wonderful thing. We have bought several toys, which is something she would have not even considered when we first married. She seems to like them.

In my mind, being non-vanilla is a step in the right direction. Am I correct in my assumption? Is the hotwife community more kinky than the general population? Or is hotwifing the main kink for otherwise vanilla preferences?