I have been talking to my wife for almost a year about my fantasy of watching her with someone else, we discussed our concerns and now she agreed to try this. However we need your advice to understand from your experience about moving forward.

We have a potential guy who we both known for years as he’s is the one who introduced us. Long story short I learned that wife and him dated before we met.

He is a good friend and I’m turned on and comfortable if I can see her with him as they have fucked for 6 months while dating. Initially my wife wasn’t comfortable when I suggested his name but later on she agreed, apparently she says that he’s the second best (after me) who fucked her well and licked her good as that made her squirt first time in life.

I’m turned on by imagining him fucking her again, we agreed that I may or may not join as it’ll be first time, however I will be present.
This friend is married now and lives in different town, we hardly catch-up once or twice a year. Also don’t have common circle of friends either. But wife is concerned as she don’t want to ruin of married life or his as we don’t know if-

1st thing if he’d be willing to do this as I’ve not asked him yet?

2nd- if his wife is into this or not or should I w leave it up to him to figure out?

3rd- what are the chances he may say no? As that’ll be embarrassing.

4th- we are confident that he’ll maintain discretion.

5th- we both are comfortable that it won’t be awkward in terms of performance as she says he is good with his tongue and cock.

The other option we have is to find some one new which may take some time.

We want your advice on this which option should we proceed with? Him or someone new?