First I brought it up back in 2016/2017. Then, after talking about it more and giving ourselves a bunch scenarios we sort of let it sit a bit. Cut to 2019 she told me she was ready and that we should try. Things got hectic in our lives starting a new family and being homeowners. You know adulting stuff. And pandemic happened. Through those times we’re as solid as can be. Just this last weekend she went to a destination wedding that I unfortunately could not go to as they didn’t want kids but she was the brides maid. She told me about someone wanting to be with her and asked if it was ok. I was jealous (because I wanted to be present). I was confused because up to that point it was just a fantasy or a conversation. I was the most turned on because she was actually having the chance and said that if an opportunity like that and she is comfortable with the guy and she ok, then to go for it. She didn’t end up doing it. We sat down and had the conversation. She said she was on the verge of giving in but became self conscious. She was 135 of solid thickness before the baby. She jumped to 205 after the baby. Still really solid thickness and has worked her way down to 170 something. Shes been working hard. But self confidence is low and body image is real. Having such a life changing event as a mother has taken a toll. I have told her not to worry about that because there are guys that she may be attracted that loves her physique. I love the way she looks no matter what. She’s the best sex I had ever had. How does one get her confidence back up? She told me to just surprise her. But I’m not the guy to pick the person for her. It has to be someone she’s attracted to. Have any of you gone through this? I guess the question is more for the females, maybe? And to the men, how did you handle the situation with your lady? I don’t like her feeling such ways. It wouldn’t mean shit to me if she isn’t into it. That’s the turn on for me, pleasing her.